This may sound negative to begin with but when you come to this realization, it will slowly allow you to become your best friend.
What are indicators of this?
Always doubting your decisions
Over thinking and second guessing yourself
Dependent on others to be your security blanket
Fear of failure or guilt
Blaming others and making excuses for your shortcomings
I am not saying you won't feel one or all of these at some point in our lives as this makes us human but what I am saying is don't let it rule your life without becoming a narcissist either.
So how do we do this?
Try out this questionnaire
Answer options are :
A. Not at all / B. Occasionally / C. Enough / D. Completely
1. How decisive are you?
2. How often do you go with your instinct?
3. How often do you go with other people's opinions even though don't fully agree?
4. Do you always take the easy way out in personal/ career/ health matters?
5. How often do you admit it was your fault?
6. How answerable do you feel for your decisions?
Once completed, this will give you a better idea of where you stand.
Your first realization.
So what now?
Need to start being more mindful of all these questions.
Consciously be aware of it and start to make baby steps to changing one at a time.
For instance, go with your instinct and see where it takes you.
If this is too big a jump, make a mental note how often you change your mind with small matters first.
Break the pattern. Notice peoples reactions too and how much more lighter you feel mentally.
" Everything that happens to you is your teacher. The secret is to learn to sit at the feet of your own life and be taught by it" - Polly Berrien
Waiting to hear from you.
The end result is Personal Growth.
With Warmth & Guidance,